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Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per Una persona
Correu-e: aquitania79@hotmail.com (no verificat!) |
18 feb 2004
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Sobre les relacions personals en els nostres col.lectius i espais: són importants per la dinàmica del col.lectiu? Són un tema molt secundari? |
Això no és una notícia d´actualitat, ho lamento: però crec que Indymedia és també un espai de debat i vull proposar un tema que no veig reflexat en gaires llocs. Segueixo amb interès els debats que s´han produït últimament sobre sexualitat, relacions, etc dintre d´espais "alternatius", "penya" o com els hi vulgueu dir, i és un tema del que se´n parla sovint.
Però, i les relacions simplement personals entre companys de col.lectiu, gent que comparteix els espais, etc? Què en pensem? Està tot bé? No hi ha res a debatre?
Jo tinc uns quants dubtes, a veure si algú/una s´anima a opinar.
Les relacions personals (bon rotllo/mal rotllo, per simplificar) afecten el bon funcionament d´un col.lectiu/espai, o és igual? Si em parlen amb brusquetat, o algú passa mol ràpidament d´una discussió ideològica a una descalificació personal és simplement perquè "aquest/a parla sempre així, no li donis importància", o potser hi ha gent que se sent molesta? Reaccionem quan considerem que un company/a no se sent prou escoltat, és criticat de forma molt dura, etc., o bé "ja s´ho farà".
I que passa amb les agressions verbals fortes en els col.lectius? I les amenaces? És problema de tots/es o de qui se sent agredit?
En fi, que no vull sentar càtedra, només crec que n´hauríem de reflexionar, perquè penso que sovint en els nostres col.lectius primen formes de relació bastant agressives. I això passa de vegades també aquí a Indymedia (comentaris que són simplement insults, o desqualificacions massa ràpides). No parlo de dones-homes, sinò de persones. No aspiro en absolut a viure en plan "teletubbie", però crec que aquest tipus de problemes sovint fan que un col.lectiu perdi gent i força.
O potser aquest és un plantejament hippie desfasat! En fi, que espero que hi pugui haver un debat. |
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Re: Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per un altre |
18 feb 2004
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i tant!
ens omplim la boca amb l'altre mòn possible i fem impossible, de vegades, el diàleg amb els companys mes propers
menys teoria i mes praxis
gràcies per treure el tema |
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Re: Be
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per jo |
18 feb 2004
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Es incompatible ser alternatiu actuant com autoritariament, com un machirulo, com un fatxa. Molt be. Les formes tambe denoten una alternativa d'alliberament |
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un texte q me va agradar molt sobre aqet tema
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per lectora |
18 feb 2004
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es en angles, pero espere q ho entengues. ho sento, no tinc temps d traduir..... :)
el vaig trovar i el llegia aqets dies.
la font es indymedia whasintong (DC) i com se intente donar solucio a conflictes. ve del pacifisme america, eixe moviment q qasi no es coneix i es tant tant fort al imperi (reprimit amb bales d goma a les manis antiwar).
Conflict Resolution Policy
passed March 31, 2003
We fully recognize that conflict occurs, especially when people of diverse backgrounds are working with each other in a small space. We also understand that conflicts can be created by individuals, a group of people, and/or structures or processes within the IMC. But we also believe that conflict presents an opportunity for people and organizations to learn, change, grow, and become better. The following is information about how to resolve conflicts within DC Indymedia.
We encourage the following general guidelines to help diminish conflicts:
* Respect all people and be aware of how your verbal and nonverbal interactions affect people around you.
* Hold each other accountable at all times. Let people know in a non-angry manner when they say or do something that offends you or others.
* Listen to other people?s point of views. We all have much to teach each other.
* Try to resolve conflicts by communicating directly with the persons/individual involved.
Some conflicts cannot be adequately addressed through the general guidelines above and require a defined process for resolving. The following information outlines the process for resolving conflicts within DC Indymedia:
Who can help me through a conflict I'm having inside the IMC?
Any person experiencing or observing a conflict can select a mediator or advocate to help resolve that conflict.
A "Mediator" is someone who meets with persons-in-conflict with the goal of resolving the conflict, turning complaints and concerns into proposals, and/or ultimately making changes in the IMC.
An "Advocate" is someone who will assist you in having your concerns fairly and properly addressed and considered. An Advocate will represent you in the mediation process, or ensure that your concerns are added to a meeting agenda and given the proper amount of time for discussion and deliberation. An Advocate will attend meetings with you to provide support and guidance in airing your concerns, voicing your proposals and finding consensus in solutions.
In the event of an extremely difficult conflict an Advocate may attend a meeting on your behalf, as your proxy. You may empower that Advocate to act on your behalf in raising concerns and reaching a consensus solution. Because an Advocate cannot represent you and your concerns as well as you can, it is strongly advised that an Advocate be your proxy only when attending a meeting yourself will cause significant difficulty and distress to yourself and/or others.
The IMC has several dedicated Mediation and Advocate volunteers who can be of assistance to you in times of conflict. If you want the assistance of one of our volunteers, you can contact one specifically by phone or e-mail. Feel free, also, to e-mail them all at the address (email address TBD).
What will a mediation volunteer do for me?
Once you've made contact with an IMC Mediator, that Mediator will probably ask you (or your Advocate) to get together in person to talk about the conflict. IMC Mediators have made a commitment to asking questions rather than giving advice or quoting policy. Mediators generally view conflict as a way to help the IMC learn and grow. Mediators view persons-in-conflict as consultants to the IMC, that is, as allies with a valuable perspective on how the IMC impacts the community-at-large. As a consultant, then, you'll be asked to describe a few things: how whatever conflict you're observing started, what you think the problem is, how you want to address the conflict, what you think this conflict says about the current state of the IMC and the local activist community at large, etc.
It might be the case that one or more potential Mediators will "recuse" themselves from the role of Mediator. This just means that they don't want to get involved as a Mediator because they see themselves as already involved, either as an actor or as a person-too-close-to-the-problem. Please don't take it personally if a Mediator feels the need to recuse herself. Mediators are acting in what they see as your best interest when they do so.
What happens after I meet with a mediator?
After you bring your concerns to a Mediator, the Mediator will do one of two things, depending on what you want:
* Organize a conflict resolution process between you (or your Advocate) and the person/people involved in the conflict. This process can be done in several ways, such as through in-person meetings, via email, etc. or
* Get your conflict onto the agenda at the pertaining meeting, either as an item for discussion or as a proposal.
In some cases, you may want direct mediation between you and the person/people the conflict exists with. You and your Mediator will determine how mediation should occur. Some ways to mediate conflict include in person meetings with the person/people involved. Ultimately, the mediation process depends on what you and your Mediator come up with. The Mediator will then work with you and the person/parties involved to reach a resolution.
In other cases, you may want your conflict placed on a meeting agenda. There are lots of completely valid reasons why a person with a conflict might not be able to bring a conflict to the meeting without assistance. It's the nature of conflict to be emotional, painful, confusing, intimidating, exasperating. That's why we propose the idea of the Advocate. As mentioned above, the Advocate "sits in" at meetings with and on behalf of persons-in-conflict, facilitating the expression of the person (or group of people) with the conflict, and hoping to facilitate a consensus that might resolve the conflict. Your Mediator might volunteer to serve as a guest facilitator for the agenda item that pertains to your conflict. This can be useful when all in attendance at a particular meeting seem to be people-too-close-to-the-problem. It's best to get a consensus on a guest facilitator one meeting in advance, although it can sometimes be done at the meeting in question.
In all cases, how you and your Mediator and/or Advocate interact as a team to get your concerns resolved is entirely up to you. In the interest of avoiding conflicts of interest, it is recommended that Mediators or Advocates not be active members of a group where a conflict exists. Mediators and Advocates should be familiar with the IMC structure and operations.
What happens if I am not happy with the results of mediation?
If you are unsatisfied with the results of mediation, or with the process of mediation as it unfolds for any reason, you may request a new Mediator. The new mediator will take into account the mediation that has been done so far, and then work with the person/people involved to reach a resolution that is acceptable. In the event that a conflict cannot be resolved through a second Mediator, the conflict may be too difficult for the IMC to handle and the parties involved may be asked to seek outside help.
What happens after a successful mediation?
The most important thing is that a just and fair result to conflict is achieved. However, we all can learn from conflicts, and the experience of resolving conflicts. Other people within DC Indymedia and the community at large can benefit, change, learn and grow because of a conflict. The ultimate goal is to prevent the same conflict from occurring again. Therefore, if possible, we ask that a general summary of the conflict and how it was resolved be presented to the general DC Indymedia cooperative so that we all may learn. We ask that the parties involved and/or a Mediator draft a general summary that can be presented to the larger cooperative. We do not in any way expect confidential details, including names, to be disclosed in the summary.
What if my conflict is in need of immediate attention?
We encourage people to go through the conflict resolution process outlined here in order to reach resolution. However, we also recognize that some conflicts arise abruptly and require immediate attention. In the event that an immediate conflict arises in the DC Indymedia space and needs immediate attention, the IMC volunteer staffing the space is empowered to make a judgment call on how to prevent the conflict from escalating, which could include asking one or more people to vacate the IMC space for a period of time. The IMC volunteer must then report the incident to a mediator. |
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Re: Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per Una persona |
19 feb 2004
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Gràcies lectora, i també als altres que heu contestat. Molt interessant la idea d´aprendre dels conflictes. Intentaré traduir-ho i difondre-ho. |
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Re: Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per . |
26 feb 2004
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Humildad. |
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Re: Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per algu |
28 nov 2004
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heroe en la calle! fatxa en la cama? |
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Re: Sobre relacions humanes en els nostres espais
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per troballes |
03 gen 2005
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la teoria de la comunicacio noviolenta te com un dels seus principis que totes tenim necessitats molt semblants, si no les mateixes, pero tenim diferents estrategies per satisfer-les. Sovint aquestes estrategies menen a conductes compulsives, que no fan sino realimentar-se i amagar la necessitat real.
Hi ha textos, la majoria en angles, sobre el tema a www.cnvc.org - els capitols sobre espiritualitat els podeu ignorar o reescriure amb altres paraules mes politicament correctes. |
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